Mastering the skills of resilience helps us to navigate when the waters of life become choppy and we may begin to doubt our abilities to handle the challenges.
Six Rs of Resilience:
• Reflect: recognize feelings, thoughts and actions
• Reset: take a break, go for a walk or drive, take a shower
• Review: ask “is this helping or harming me?”
• Reframe: choose helpful thoughts and a growth mindset
• Redirect: focus on what you can change, choose helpful responses
• Reconnect
↳ with self: spend time on self-care and hobbies
↳ with others: spend time with family & friends, volunteer
⤍ GOAL: RESPOND choose to respond with helpful thoughts and actions
↳ REFLECT “What am I thinking, feeling, and doing?”
Awareness of
↳ internal sensations in body
↳ emotions
↳ thoughts
↳ focus
↳ actions
↳ RESET “How can I change my focus?”
• Take a break
• Act: move your body
• Go for a walk or drive
• Take a shower
↳ REVIEW “Is this helping or harming me?”
• Accept reality
• Adversity happens
• Life is uncertain
• Change is a part of life
↳ REFRAME “What are more helpful thoughts, feelings, and actions?”
• Rational thoughts
• Growth mindset
• Helpful actions ↴
↳ REDIRECT “I choose to…”
• Focus on what can be changed
• Plan purpose
↳ RECONNECT
↳ with self
• self-care (more about resilience)
• hobbies and creative arts
• learning and growth
↳ with others
• spend time with family & friends
• share
• volunteer
↳ RESPOND: choose to respond with helpful thoughts and actions
• Breathe
• Exercise
• Meditate
• Emotional intelligence… and more at the Building Blocks of Positive Shift
Download the Resilience and EQ pdf
TED talk by Susan David, author of “Emotional Agility”
TED talk by Dr. Lucy Hone “Three Secrets of Resilient People.” She is the author of “Resilient Grieving: How to Find Your Way Through a Devastating Loss (Finding Strength and Embracing Life After a Loss that Changes Everything.”
Article “How to Stop Catastrophizing” at Vox